The emotions associated with human loss include guilt, anger, sadness and an array of other negatively-attributed states. Westernized society and psychology have even constructed a model of the stages of grief beginning with denial and running through anger, depression and more. It speaks to just how detached and completely unaware the majority have become to the possibilities of inner peace. Instead of exploring how divine connection can ground and ultimately fortify us all, the Western “wisdom” turns loss into a mandatory trip through a dark tunnel that must be slowly and painstakingly walked before relief becomes possible. It would be comic if it weren’t so wastefully and tragically false.

As previously discussed, when a soul finds inner peace through a dedication to the practice of meditation, nothing, absolutely nothing, can shake that connected energetic state, not even the prospect, or reality, of loss of any kind. A super conscious soul realizes all loss is an illusion. The change is real, by comparison, but the judgement of that change as loss is a falsehood generated by the blindness of the soul to the higher reality which is eternal connection and peace.

Let’s begin with a milder example, such as the “loss” of a job. In our culture, the expected reactions to being fired or laid off would include, anger, sadness and fear, among others. To a soul lacking inner peace, these reactions make ultimate sense.

• She might be angry, because she feels unjustly judged
• He might be sad, because he enjoyed his work and his relationships with office mates
• She might be afraid, because she’s not sure how she’s going to provide for her family

A conscious soul, however, one who has tapped into divine connection, experiences little to none of this negativity.

• She is not angry, because she knows she’s performed at her best (or honestly recognizes her shortcomings) and realizes others’ judgements of her quintessentially do NOT matter
• He is not sad, because he knows he can enjoy many things and that he can continue to pursue his talents either with a new employer or with his own direction and passion. He also realizes that any friendships meant to continue beyond his employment will do so without the crutch of an office atmosphere.
• She will not fear for providing for her family, because she realizes her prospects for finding new employment are as good as ever, and she also does not suffer from excess pride that would keep her from reaching out for and accepting the generosity of others. Even if she’s forced to move to a smaller home or in with an emotionally balanced friend or family member, she knows doing so with grace and humility will set a fantastic example for her children or whomever she may be supporting

You can see how a divinely connected soul need not fear a change like the loss of a job. A soul at peace knows better than to believe in the false selves so often constructed around employment and professional “status” in the Western world.

Moving on to losses more core-shaking by the common measure, the metaphoric death of a relationship or the literal death of a close friend or family member (other than a child) constitute some of the “hardest” losses in human experience. Some specific emotions common to this kind of loss (whether the now-absent person was a friend or lover) are, again, anger and sadness as well as jealousy.

• He might be angry, because he feels betrayed by the “best bud” he’s had since college
• She might be sad, because she no longer has a “BFF” from whom she can feel support and confidence
• He might be jealous, because his ex-lover seems to have found happiness with another person

Still, these changes cannot destroy or even shake the stability someone who has inner peace.

• He will not be angry, because he’ll realize that his former “best bud” either had a change of heart or that he’s always misunderstood something about that person. He won’t have any need or even feelings of need for any friend to share his point of view or approach to life. (Of course, if he has these understandings, it’s less likely a disagreement would eventuate to a cessation of a friendship in the first place, but people make the choice to walk in and out of our lives all the time, just as often without our notice, and a soul at peace honors a fellow soul’s needs and recognizes those need are anything but a commentary on his own worth.)
• She will not be sad, because she doesn’t draw her strength from the “support” or “confidence” of any fellow soul, but rather from the inexhaustible resource that is universal divinity.
• He will not be jealous, because he will understand that his relationship with his ex-lover had given her all the fulfillment it could. He’ll be happy for what he was able to contribute to her human existence, and he will wish her nothing but the best. What he has for her is love not attachment.

Finally, moving into the ultimate loss that a human can experience, let’s analyze a parent’s loss of a child. So ingrained in what makes us human, so deeply embedded in the psyche of the human brain, I’m not sure the reflexes of grief can ever be removed from this loss. However, I do believe that a soul at peace will experience those reflexes differently from a soul for whom peace is still unknown.

How canonized this loss has become! How ultimately is has been built up from our oldest texts to our newest imaginations, and yet, a soul recognizing where her child’s soul has gone (back to the perfection of connection with the collective) cannot truly grieve that child’s fortune. She realizes that she grieves the human life she imagined for that child and her chance to take part in that during her own human life. It’s not that her child was never meant to exist. It is that her child always has and always will exist.

A connected soul recognizes she’s only lost the false life she imagined for her child and the role she’d been preparing to play in this particular human existence of that child. In the highest reality, she will always be mother to that child and that child will always be mother to her and father and cousin, and best friend, as all of these are merely the greatest of human definitions for the oneness that already exists. We are all everything to each other, because in the highest reality, there is no other. We have all “lived and died” every human life and the loss of our experience of a fellow soul in this particular human existence is really quite a small loss, one we already have and will continue to make up for as we continue to exist and experience, in this life and all others.

I’m not sure any parent can be spared the reflexes of grief at the loss of a child, but if they have inner peace, they will experience them differently and even be able to step back from them and observe them as they happen, from a spiritual place of peace and their own child-like curiosity.

We can see how all loss, even that deemed the hardest and most unbearable, reveals itself for mere change, well-recognized as the only constant in human existence. Once we’ve established our divine connection, once we’ve awakened to our own eternal and universal inner peace, no change, even that deemed as ultimate loss, can “break” us.